Discipline- Essence of success

Steam without chamber and water without dam could not produce electricity, so is man without discipline could not achieve success.
Discipline is collection of scattered components of personality within and channeling them towards success by being a part of the system. Discipline is in fact derived from proto-Indo-European word “dek-” which means “acceptance.” Discipline is the acceptance of the fact that channeling requires confinement; a sense of sacrifice for something better; a sense of hardship to forge a character as steel.
Gary Keller and Jay Papasan in their book ‘The One Thing’ state “this pervasive idea that the successful person is disciplined person who leads a disciplined life is a lie. The truth is we don’t need any more discipline than we already have. We just need to direct and manage it a little better.” And they are right.
There is a principle in physics which says that under constant volume, increase in pressure is directly proportional to increase in temperature and upon this principle, pressure cooker are made to cook the food fast as compared with traditional cooking. A gas pressure cooker is a device to cook food by raising pressure and subsequently raising temperature inside the cooker placed over the ordinary flame produced by domestic gas. It contains a metal base packed with all sides except top, a lid to cover the top after placing the food inside the cooker, a gasket or sealing ring and a weight. The lid has an opening for escaping the gas and releasing the extra pressure. The working is very simple. Food is placed inside the cooker along with some water and is closed with lid and sealing ring. Weight is put over the opening in the lid. The pressure cooker is now put on flame. Due to the heat of the flame, the temperature starts rising inside the cooker; the increasing temperature makes the water boil and evaporate. Since there is a weight on the opening in the lid, steam could not escape and increase the pressure inside and the increasing pressure raises the temperature. The process continues till the required pressure and temperature obtained. When the pressure exceeds the required limit, it lifts the weight on the lid and let some steam escape to maintain the required pressure and temperature inside. The lifting of weight and escaping of steam produce a whistling sound and it is the number of this whistling sound that determines whether the food is cooked inside or not. The same principle is applied in steam engines to run turbines for producing electricity or moving wagons on rails through railways.
What will happen if lid is not properly closed or there is defective sealing ring? The steam leak and required pressure and temperature will never be achieved. And, what will happen if weight is fixed or opening in the lid is closed? The cooker will burst due to excess pressure builds inside. The case is same with discipline. Lack of discipline incapables us to achieve success and on the other hand, excessive discipline breaks the system. We need optimal amount of discipline in order to succeed and we are already born with that. We must take care that it doesn’t leak through procrastination or other ways. In fact, we always do not need discipline; sometimes we have to relax it as marching over the bridge by the army. When army marches, all the members move their legs together in synchronous manner; all the left legs put together and all the right legs put together and this is dangerous for the bridge because of the pressure applied by the simultaneous feet at a time. 
I think all of us know that it is easy to break a single stick and very hard to break a bundle of sticks. This is also reflected in the potential damage of bridge by collective feet pressure of a battalion at a time and the collective pressure of steam inside the cooker while lifting the weight placed upon the lid. The purpose of unity is to focus on a common point and discipline is involved in it. Discipline is like a magnifying glass which concentrates the beams of sunlight on a point and helps burn a match stick without rubbing on match box. Focusing, channeling, directing or unifying mean stopping the leakage and make them available for our purpose. Discipline involves sacrifice and priority. Discipline helps us in reserving our vital strength and enthusiasm for more useful and productive things. In the words of Brian Tracy, “Discipline is having dinner before dessert.”
Discipline doesn’t mean to work mechanically like a robot with certain sets of programs pre-installed in the body. Discipline doesn’t imply to follow rules like a zombie but assimilation of principle to break the rules when necessary to sustain the principle. Discipline is courage to make a right decision for betterment in long terms rather than enjoying short term gratifications.  Paulo Coelho put it as just a choice between what one wants now and what one wants most.
Monkey-hunters use a box with an opening at the top, big enough for the monkey to slide its hand in. Inside the box are nuts. The monkey grabs the nuts and now its hand becomes a fist. The monkey tries to get its hand out but the opening is big enough for the hand to slide in, but too small for the fist to come out. Now the monkey has a choice, either to let go off the nuts and be free forever or hang on to the nuts and get caught. Guess what it picks every time? It hangs on to the nuts and gets caught. The monkey thinks that it is free and have right to get what it wants and now the thing of desire is in its hand. It seems happy but its happiness dries out as it get caught and put into cage for life long as a showpiece for entertainment of others. Epictetus said “Freedom is not procured by a full enjoyment of what is desired but controlling the desire.” Discipline is needed for not getting trapped in the web of unending lust and remain free. Discipline is yajna in which momentary happiness is sacrificed to get everlasting happiness.
Discipline is sense of love and responsibility. Shiva Khera said “Discipline is loving firmness. Sometimes you have to be unkind to be kind: Not all medicine is sweet, not all surgery is painless, but we have to take it.” Giraffe gives birth to a baby giraffe while standing; the baby hits the hard ground directly out of the comfort of mother’s womb, and sits on the ground. The first thing mother does is to get behind the baby and give him a hard kick. The baby gets up, but his legs are weak and wobbly and the baby falls down. Mother goes behind again and gives him one more kick. The baby gets up but sits down again. Mother keeps kicking till the baby gets on its feet and starts moving. It is hard for a mother to do such thing but it is necessary because  she knows that the only chance of survival for the baby in the forest is to get on its feet otherwise it will be eaten up by other wild animals. 
Discipline is hardship too. Butterflies feel very pain and trouble while coming out of cocoons.The pain is unbearable; almost nearly to die but it is necessary for their wings and survival. Without this process, they would die. Similarly, in one’s life, there are many situations when one has to take hard decisions because they are necessary to sustain life. Discipline is the ability to willingly make sacrifice in the present to secure the success in the future. In other words, discipline is bringing the future into the present so that something could be done about it in now.
Discipline is self-mastery which involves determination, hardwork and persistence.  Michaelangelo put it, “If people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it wouldn’t seem wonderful at all.” Calvin Coolidge said “Nothing will take the place of persistence. Talent will not: Nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not: Unrewarded genius is a proverb. Education will not: The world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”
Mahatma Gandhi in his autobiography confessed about a time when he felt double shame because of his carnal lust. His father was suffering from fistula and he was one of the principal attendants with the duties of a nurse which mainly consisted dressing the wound, giving the medicines and massaging his leg untill his father fell asleep. This was also the time when his wife was expecting a baby. He mentioned that while every night his hands were busy massaging his father’s legs, his mind was hovering about the bedroom and that too at a time when religion, medical science, and commonsense alike forbade sexual intercourse and when relieved from duty, went straight to the bedroom. His father’s condition had been deteorating day by day and then the dreadful night came. As usual he was giving the massage, this time his uncle offered to relieve him and he gladly accepted and went straight to the bedroom,  woke his sleeping wife up but within five or six minutes, the news came that his father was no more. He realized that if animal passion had not blinded him, he should have been spared the torture of separation from his father during his last moments. He took it as a blot that he would have never been able to efface or forget. But he overcame that desire and duing his later stages of life he slept naked with naked ladies beside him on a single bed without any thought on the subject in his mind. He wrote “It took me long to get free from the shackles of lust, and I had to pass through many ordeals before I could overcome it….. All these efforts did not seem to bear much fruits, but when I look back upon the past I feel that the final resolution was the cumulative effect of those unsuccessful strivings.”
Do not surrender to initial failures because to give up when get tired is a easy way to live but winners always go on. Winners are committed and put on pressure not for winning but for hardwork and preparation. Steve Jobs said “It is impossible to connect   the dots forward but it is very very clear looking backwards ten years later.” When a wall falls due to hitting hundred times, it is not because of the hundredth hit but it is due to the cumulative effects of all hits. And so is the case with every endeavor as Mahatma Gandhi admitted.
In the movie ‘Invictus’ Nelson Mandela is shown to get inspiration from a poem which, according to him, helped him to stand when all he wanted to do was to lie down.
Out of the night that covers me
Black as the Pit from pole to pole
l thank whatever Gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
ln the fell clutch of circumstance
l have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of fate
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
lt matters not how strait the gate
How charged with punishment the scroll
l am the master of my fate:
l am the captain of my soul.

Loser despite winning every time.

Winning is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to loose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat and go onto win again, you are going to be a champion someday.
-Wilma Rudolph
Winners are not who wins every time but who knows the importance of losing also. Donald Trump said “Part of being a winner is knowing when enough is enough. Sometimes you have to give up the fight and walk away and move on to something that’s more productive.” One cannot work all the time: 24X7. One needs to take rest. One has a limited resource. One must have the faculty to distinguish between important or unimportant, worthy or worthless. It is wisdom to reserve one’s resources for meaningful purpose and surrender against meaningless goals. 
I heard a story about a man who was going with his son to a market to sell a donkey. On the way, they met a person who asked “Why walk when you have a donkey to ride?” The man let his son to sit on the donkey. Soon they met another person who said “How shameful of you! Let your father ride, won’t he be tired?” So, the boy got down and the man rode the donkey. Again they marched on. “Poor boy”, said the next passerby they met, “why should the lazy father ride while his son is walking?” So, the boy got onto the donkey too. As they went on, they met some travelers who commented “How cruel of them! They are up to kill the poor donkey.” Hearing this, the man and the son got down. Now they decided to carry the donkey on their shoulders. As they did so, the travelers broke into laughter. The laughter frightened the donkey. It broke free and galloped away. Don’t try to win every argument or situation. You cannot satisfy everyone’s need. You cannot please everyone.
We think that getting what we want brings us happiness; winning brings happiness. We all know the story of the greedy king named Midas. He had a lot of gold and the more he had the more he wanted. One day he was visited by an angel and asked to make a wish. The king was delighted and said, “I would like everything I touch to turn to gold.” The angel said “Starting tomorrow morning with the sun rays you will get the golden touch.” The king thought he must be dreaming, this couldn’t be true. But the next day when he woke up, he touched the bed, his clothes, and everything turned to gold. He looked out of the window and saw his daughter playing in the garden. He decided to give her a surprise and thought she would be happy. But before he went to the garden he decided to read a book. The moment he touched it, it turned into gold and he couldn’t read it. Then he sat to have breakfast and the moment he touched the fruit and the glass of water, they turned to gold. He was getting hungry but he couldn’t eat. Just about that time his daughter came running and he hugged her and she turned into a gold statue. There were no more smiles left. The king bowed his head and started crying. Despite winning his wish, his life became miserable and he had to live a life of a loser.
Winning is an event while winner is a spirit. By merely winning, one cannot become a winner. Winning an event may be chance but having a winner spirit could not be chance; it is something that one earns. Almost we all have heard the story of tortoise and rabbit who once raced and tortoise won and declared winner. The story goes like this. There lived a rabbit who ridiculed a slow-moving tortoise and it was decided to have a race between them. The rabbit soon left the tortoise behind and, confident of winning, took a nap midway through the course. The tortoise got tired but he kept going. When the rabbit awoke, however, he found that his competitor, crawling slowly but steadily, had arrived before him and won the race. It was a chance victory. Under normal circumstance, a rabbit could never be defeated by a tortoise. Despite the fact, tortoise was a winner. How come so? Tortoise was a winner not because he won the race but because he had winner spirit. This fact is mostly neglected and gives rise to a mind state which is self-defeating. This problem is correctly raised by Joshua Waitzkin in his statement: “Very gifted people, they win and they win and they are told that they win because they are a winner. That seems like positive thing to tell children, but ultimately what that means is when they lose, it must make them a loser.”
Olympics is a lifetime event. It was the year 1988 and the event was Seoul Olympics Finn Class race. Lawrence Lemieux was in second position with a medal almost certain but he stopped racing to help fellow competitors who were in trouble. After rescuing them, he resumed the race and finished in 22nd place out of 32 boats in the race. Even though he did not win the race, he was a winner. He was honored by kings and queens all over the world because he kept the winner spirit alive. He was also awarded the Pierre de Coubertin medal for sportsmanship. The medal has been given to only 12 athletes till date.
Winners do not play for winning but for self-integrity. Reuben Gonzales was in the final match of the racquetball tournament. This was an important event and he was playing for the world title. In the final game at match point, Gonzales played a super shot to save point. The referee and the linesman both confirmed that the shot was good and he was declared the winner. But Gonzales, after a little pause and hesitation, turned back to shake his opponent’s hand and said, “The shot was faulty.” As a result, he lost the serve and eventually, lost the match. Everyone was stunned. Who could imagine that a player with everything officially in his favor, with winning in his pocket, would disqualify himself and lose. When asked why he did it, Gonzales replied, “It was the only thing to do in order to maintain my integrity.” He lost the match, yet he was a winner.
Winner does not work for credit but for the work done. Colonel Edward M. House wielded an enormous influence in national and international affairs while Woodrow Wilson occupied the White House. Wilson leaned upon Colonel House for secret counsel and advice more than he did upon even members of his own cabinet. What method did the Colonel use in influencing the President? Fortunately, we know, for House himself revealed it to Arthur D. Howden Smith, and Smith quoted House in an article in The Saturday Evening Post. ” ‘After I got to know the President,’ House said, ‘I learned the best way to convert him to an idea was to plant it in his mind casually, but so as to interest him in it – so as to get him thinking about it on his own account. The first time this worked it was an accident. I had been visiting him at the White House and urged a policy on him which he appeared to disapprove. But several days later, at the dinner table, I was amazed to hear him trot out my suggestion as his own.’ “Did House interrupt him and say, “That’s not your idea. That’s mine?” Oh, no. Not House. He was too adroit for that. He didn’t care about credit. He wanted results. So he let Wilson continue to feel that the idea was his. House did even more than that. He gave Wilson public credit for these ideas.
Endeavor only for winning is attachment, freedom lies in sacrifice of transitory winning over deterministic winning.

Procrastination- Termite of Success

There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way and not starting.       -Gautam Buddha
Do you put things off until tomorrow? Do you get sidetracked from your goal by involving in many low priorities tasks? Do you wait for the perfect time to do things and then miss opportunities? Do you avoid dealing with difficult issues with the hope that they will go away? Do you ignore minor problems until they turn into full blown predicaments that demand your immediate attention? If all or any of the answer is ‘yes’ then you are suffering from a serious ailment called procrastination.
Termites are small insects often referred as white ants. They live inside wood and eat it from inside. From outside, the wood looks healthy, okay and normal but from inside due to eating of termites become hollow and thus useless and of no practical importance of any kind. A huge tree could be fall by a little blow or its own weight owing to its hollowness from inside as a result of termite activities. The problem of termite is considered very seriously in many countries of the world that no insurance is guaranteed to those houses which are found to be infected by termites.
Procrastination may be considered as termite of success. Like termite, the habit of procrastination eats away the personality of a person from inside. He may look normal and confident in appearance but from inside he is broken and could be blown away by little push of life.
A bollywood blockbuster ‘Tare zameen par’ literally mean ‘Stars on the earth’ is a story of child who is suffering from a learning disorder called dyslexia in which one is having difficulty in learning to read fluently and with accurate comprehension despite normal intelligence. The child in the movie conceals his inability of reading and writing properly into his naughtiness. Others think of him as mischievous and wicked but he is helpless and do not want to reveal his incompetence to become a subject of prank among others. He found his self respect in being called as naughty but do not to become a center of pity and sympathy in society. The problem is same with procrastinators. Procrastination appears as laziness, the habit of resting before one gets tired but underlying problems may be different and even serious.
Procrastination is not mere laziness but a mask behind which deeply rooted serious threats of success are hiding. The underlying problems may be inadequate purpose, lack of goal or motivation, shortage of planning, lack of physical or mental strength to execute plans, fear of criticism or rejection, fear of committing mistakes or taking risks etc. Sometimes lack of concentration also fans procrastination. Arrange a separate working place, make its environment work friendly and do not let others to enter it and disturb its interior harmony.
Write down your goal and purpose for achieving the goal. Try to give a pictorial representation either by self drawing or cutting pictures from somewhere else and pasting on paper. Daily review it at least twice a day; one before sleeping and another just after awaking in the morning. If possible, try to visualize it on mind’s screen at junction of eyebrows and nose. If you are seeing it in dream while sleeping is a good sign.
Make a schedule of your daily work and include activities of morning walk and listening music in daily routine.
There was once a problem with Indian Railways. Indian Railways is the world’s ninth largest commercial  employer and one of the world’s largest railway networks comprising 115,000 km of track over a route of 65,000 km and 7,500 stations. The problem was untimely running of trains. This created a situation of panic over the nation. Lots of complex strategies were discussed over the issue but solution came in the form of simple idea; an idea of extending duration of running time between the stations. If you are not able to finish your assigned work in the given time then reschedule time span with requisite extension. This will boost a new energy and confidence in your bloodstream.
Prepare a hierarchical list of procrastination activities based on your extent of resistance. Start with lower level in the list having less resistance to activity. Action is the only antidote to procrastination. Ralph Waldo Emerson said “A man is hero not because he is braver than anyone else but because he is brave for ten minutes longer.” Just do it when you feel procrastination’s cloud over your head. In the words of Pablo Picasso “Action is the foundational key to all successes.” After successful completion of task, reward yourself. Reward may be anything; it may be collection of pebbles for each completion. It is a symbolic activity to reassure you that you have done this and could do anything else. By seeing your collection and increasing numbers of pebbles in it infuse a new enthusiasm in you.
Fear is nothing but indecision and postponement. Indecision crystallizes into doubt; the two blend and become fear. On the other hand, a firm decision melts fear and its execution in form of action evaporates away the fear.
The art of a young cartoonist was stated as rubbish and rejected by many cartoon editors. He was Walt Disney whose concept of Mickey Mouse was widely acclaimed and even considered as masterpiece. J. K. Rowling, author of Harry Potter, was rejected by 25 publishers. So procrastination directed by fear of criticism or rejection is a lame excuse for not to proceed a action.
Mistakes are footsteps of learning. The most important fact about mistakes is that many important discoveries and successes came about as a result of so called mistake. Charles Goodyear, during an experiment in 1839, accidentally spilled a mixture of sulphur rubber on to a hot stove. The result of this smelly-smoky was vulcanized rubber and the birth of a billion dollar industry. The group of effective medicines on bacterial infection called antibiotics was also discovered as accidental mistake.
The greatest risk ever mentioned in history is the risk of not taking any risk and if you are prepare to take that risk then you are capable of taking any risk.
Just do it! First you make your habits; then your habits make you.    -Lucas Remmerswaal

Dream is not conception but architecture

Make no little plans they have no magic to stir men’s blood. Make big plans, aim high in hope and work.
–Deniel H. Burnham
Dream is not conception but architecture. Dream is not mere implantation of wish in one’s mind but the planning, designing, and construction of wish into physical reality. As Ludwig Mies van der Rohe said that architecture begins when two bricks are put together so dream begins with wish; wish is not the entire building but foundation only. Le Corbusier wrote: “You employ stone, wood, and concrete, and with these materials you build houses and palaces: that is construction. Ingenuity is at work. But suddenly you touch my heart, you do me good. I am happy and I say: This is beautiful. That is Architecture.” Dream requires a sense of passion and enthusiasm. Ralph Waldo Emerson said “nothing great is ever achieved without enthusiasm.”
Dream is visualization of planning in every aspect with minute details. Visualization and detailing are very essential part of physical reality, lacking them may turn down the transformation of dream into reality. Try to see it as you see dream while sleeping. It is a very important process. A detailed design is an essential constituent for the construction of magnificent monument. Each small element contributes to its brilliance. It is said that little things make perfection but perfection isn’t a small thing.
For descriptive visualization of dream one should write the title of one’s wish on piece of paper then add attributes in point-wise manner, then comes the purpose of goal. There is one quality that one must possess to win is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants and why one wants the same not any other things. After elaborating the purpose on paper, come back to goal and break it down into some definable mid-term goals which could be used as milestones during execution. Further, break each mid-term goal into a series of organized little steps. Definiteness is an integral part of productive dream in terms of date and time with other quantifiable entities. This written portrayal is clear and vivid picture of one’s dream. Don’t bother about execution planning at this stage, just concentrate on mental picture, try to visualize with minute details. That’s it. It is said that well presented problem is half solved.
To help a plant grow, one never pulls it to make it grow faster. Constantly picking it either is no help. What does help is take care of its environment, watering, fertilizing and other necessary things and true to its nature plant grows on its own.  The most important thing is to determine exactly how much one is ready to care and pay for one’s dream. There is no free lunch in the world.
Don’t wait for explicit plan to transform dream into reality when designing part is over but set in motion with initial necessary steps. St. Francis of Assisi said “start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” In the words of Pablo Picasso, “I’m always doing thing I can’t do, that’s how I get to do them.”
The feelings of passion and enthusiasm along with elaborative visualization invoke the Cosmic Consciousness to formulate a plan which will probably flash into one’s mind through the sixth sense in the form of an inspiration. Treat it with respect and act upon it as soon as one receives it. Shekhar Kapur, the famous filmmaker who portrayed the story of the great Queen Elizabeth on silver screen, once said “What I’m going to do is not what I plan to do. I put myself into absolute panic. It is my one way of getting rid of my mind. I align myself into chaos. Out of chaos some moments of truth come. All preparation is preparation. I don’t even know it is honest. I don’t even know it is truthful. Truth comes on the moment organically.”
Thomas Edison dreamed of a lamp that could be operated by electricity, began where he stood to put his dream into action and despite more than ten thousand failures, he stood by that dream until he made it a physical reality. Dreamers never quit.
When making a decision of minor importance, I have always found it advantageous to consider all the pros and cons. In vital matters, however, such as choice of mate or a profession, the decision should come from unconscious, from somewhere within ourselves.
 –Sigmund Freud

Motivation- Fuel of Success

If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.      -Jim Rohn

Desire sets fire but fuel of success is only motivation. In fact, the spark that ignites is motivation itself. Motivation is the ‘cause’ part of cause-effect duo. It is the reason behind any behavior.  In reality, any deed could not proceed on its own without any reason. Each and every action must have a cause. This is the basis of Karma theory or the theory of cause and effect. Cause and effect are not two entities but one, Karma; the micro-level is cause and macro-level is known as effect.
A group of American car executives went to Japan to see a Japanese assembly line. At the end of the line, the doors were put on the hinges, the same as in America. But something was missing. In the United States, a line worker would take a rubber mallet and tap the edges of the door to ensure that it fit perfectly. In Japan, that job didn’t seem to exist. Confused, the American auto executives asked at what point they made sure the door fit perfectly. Their Japanese guide looked at them and smiled sheepishly. “We make sure it fits when we design it.” Motivation could be understood in terms of ‘Why’ which designs success.
There are many theories put forth to answer the ‘why’ of human behavior. Some emphasize importance of goal as driving force; some consider necessity as motivating factor while a few also focus on input-output ratio to be the determining part. The popular one includes theories of Abraham Maslow, Frederick Herzberg, David McClelland, Adams etc.
Athletes in a race have to run fast to reach the finishing line. Is it the finishing line that they are running for? Of course not but for trophy; are they really running for trophy or may be there some sublime personal reasons such as gaining reputation, commitment to someone, earning bread, passion for running etc.?
Muhammad Ali was born as Cassius Marcellus Clay, Jr. He is a former professional boxer. He is a descendant of Pre Civil War era American slaves in the American South. His father painted billboards and signs and his mother was a household domestic. In spite of these odds, he won six Kentucky Golden Gloves titles, two national Golden Gloves titles, an Amateur Athletic Union National Title, and the Light Heavyweight gold medal in the 1960 Summer Olympics in Rome. He lost only five matches in his entire boxing career. He mentioned in his autobiography that he threw his Olympic gold medal into the Ohio River after he and a friend of his were refused service in a restaurant at Louisville because of being a Negro despite he was a Olympic Champion who bought pride to his motherland. Some whites tried to snatch his medal. He explained his feelings as “The Olympic Medal   had been the most precious that had ever come to me. I worshipped it. It was proof of my performance, status, a symbol of belonging, of being a part of the team, a country, a world. It was my way of redeeming myself with my teachers & schoolmates, of letting them know that although I had not won scholastic victories, there was something inside me capable of victory. How could I explain I wanted something that mean more than that? Something that was so proud of me as I would be of it. Something that would let me what I know I had to be, my own kind of Champion.”
After extensive studies, researches and analysis of enormous statistical data, it is found that manipulation and inspiration are the only ways to motivate human behavior and the factors behind motivation is either pleasure or fear. A behavior is manipulated by way of incentives or punishments. Inspiration could be obligatory or personal.
Pleasure and fear are opposites but complementary as poles of magnet which cannot be separated; it doesn’t matter how hard one tries. Life itself is an excellent example. Oxygen is very essential to sustain life. Life without oxygen could not be imagined; even in a dream. Oxygen is oxidized in the process called oxidation in the mitochondria of cell where electrons are passed between different molecules, with each pass producing useful chemical energy needed for life but in the very process also releases free radicals of oxygen called oxidants which accumulates over time and shuts down mitochondria, causing cells to die, the organism to age and finally die. Oxygen is pleasure as it gives life and fear because it takes life. Life is a paradox, full of irony. All natural phenomena or processes are concoctions of pleasure and fear and it rests with us which one we choose to see.
There lived two brothers; Sohan and Mohan. Sohan was a drunkard and very cruel, always beating his wife and children while Mohan was a caring husband and responsible father. There was a big difference between their character as of sky & earth. It was something very strange for brothers who were living and had grown in similar conditions. This generated curiosity among the people to find out the reason. Sohan was asked first and he said that his father was also a drunkard and was doing the same. It was like “Like father like son.” But when Mohan was asked the same question, his reply was astonishing. According to Mohan, he was decent and generous because of his father’s deed. He was suffered a lot and decided not to suffer any people and would lead a peaceful life. It is not the condition which is responsible for the motivation but how one takes it.
Every act we do intensifies the motivation behind it in proportion to contributions it made. An act carried out identically could affect different people differently, or even the same person differently at different times because the motivations for the act are likely to be different. If the feelings that lead the action are of pleasure then the particular act intensifies the pleasure. If fear is the motivation for an act, the act intensifies that fear.
Napoleon Hill ranked the desire for sex expression as top most stimuli for human mind. He opined that desire for sexual pleasure is so strong and impelling that the human freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it. Anaïs Nin, author of Delta of Venus, praised orgasm in the words: “Electric flesh-arrows… traversing the body. A rainbow of color strikes the eyelids. A foam of music falls over the ears. It is the gong of the orgasm.” The duration and count of orgasmic pleasure is transitory and limited. Human want to extend their duration and counts. This is reflected in the sales report of aphrodisiac products. On the contrary, there are women who have hundred orgasms a day; climaxing every thirty seconds. Their experiences are not pleasure but agony. They suffer from women’s rare disorder called Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD). The persistent arousal is a restless, painful feeling that drives these women mad. Kim Ramsey said “People who don’t understand the disorder think multiple orgasms are a luxury, but I’m constantly in pain.” As it turns out, far from being blessed with a succession of divine orgasms of mega proportions, sufferers of PGAD are very deeply traumatized by the condition. Gretchen Molannen committed suicide after years of battling her affliction. Wilhelm Reich, an eminent psychoanalyst, well said that the pleasure of living and the pleasure of the orgasm are identical. Extreme orgasm anxiety forms the basis of the general fear of life.
Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.
-Wayne Dyer

Desire- Seed of Success

The central role in quantum theory of discrete choices- the choices of which questions will be put to nature, and which answer nature delivers- makes quantum theory of discrete events, rather than a theory of the continuous evolution of locally conserved matter/energy. The basic building blocks of the new conception of nature are not objective tiny bits of matter, but choices of questions and answers.
-Henry Stapp
Desire could be understood in terms of question and answer of quantum theory; freedom is given to each individual to choose freely which question he will put to nature and, similarly, nature is free to pick an answer to the question from numerous possible answers. Despite the freedom on both sides (individual as well as nature), it is certain that questions motivated by positive emotions will result in success answers while questions arise out of fear or negative emotions will result in failure answers. In fact, failure answers are success answers in a manner because one desires for them by invoking negative emotions. 
The word ‘desire’ was originated with the meaning in respect of guidance by nature for ones’ concern. Desire is derived from Latin phrase ‘de sidus’ which means ‘from the stars’. Later, in advancing world and rising competition, a feeling of insecurity emerged into prominence and transformed the meaning of word desire from accepting conscious choice of answer selected by nature to a fixed answer chosen by individuals which prohibits ones’ chance of meeting higher opportunities.
I heard a story of a boy who was sent to buy two pastries. He was told that they would cost 6 rupees. He went to bakery and asked for two pastries. The bakery owner asked five rupees for the pastries but he started arguing that he was told that they would cost 6 and he would pay only 6 rupees. The owner understood his problem and said with a smile that “5 is less than 6”. The boy finally realized his mistake, stroked his head with blush on his face, paid 5 rupees and took the pastries. This happens to most of the people who choose the answer themselves and miss higher opportunities.
A young man asked Socrates the secret to success. Socrates told the young man to meet him near the river the next morning. They met. Socrates asked the young man to walk with him toward the river. When the water got up to their neck, Socrates took the young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The boy struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. Socrates pulled his head out of the water and the first thing the young man did was to gasp and take a deep breath of air. Socrates asked, ‘What did you want the most when you were there?” The boy replied, “Air.” Socrates said, “That is the secret to success”. 
The story is mostly misinterpreted and desire is considered as obsession for success but the story only displays the extent of his preparedness for success. Desire is not the state of obsessed mind but a state of relaxed mind. It simply means availability to receive nature’s answer selected for him. Desire is a declaration that one is available and ready to face any test imposed by nature to prove his eligibility to greet the success. 
Dr. Richard Wiseman, a noted psychologist and author of the book ‘Luck Factor,’ did extensive research over a period of 10 years in finding factors for good or bad luck. In one of his experiments he gave lucky and unlucky person a newspaper asked them to find out how many photos were inside. On average, unlucky people spent about 2 minutes on this exercise while lucky people spent seconds because on the paper’s second page- in big type- was the message “Stop counting: There are 43 photos in this newspaper.” Lucky people tended to spot the message. Unlucky ones didn’t. He put second one halfway through the paper: “Stop counting, tell the experimenter you have seen this and win $250.” Again, the unlucky people missed it. He deduced from the experiment that unlucky people miss chance opportunities because they’re too busy looking for something else. Lucky people see what is there rather than just what they’re looking for. 
Once Michaelangelo was working on stones and someone asked him what was he doing? He replied, “I am removing extra stones from the statue inside.” The same man asked the same question with another artist who was working with stones. The reply was general. He said, “I am making statue out of this stone.” This is the basic difference between the art of Michaelangelo and others. Michaelangelo used guidance from the nature itself while others were obsessed with their preoccupied image of statue. There is no doubt why Michaelangelo’s art was beautiful, magnificent and widely acclaimed because it was the choice of nature among the enormous possibilities, not the choice of Michaelangelo. He was just following the stars.
It was the year 1893, a young Indian Saint had heard vaguely of a Parliament of Religions to be opened someday somewhere in America and he had desired to attend it. He knew nothing about it, neither the exact date nor the conditions of admission. He also didn’t have enough money to complete his journey; his ticket was sponsored by Maharaja of Khetri. He left Bombay on May 31, 1893 for America. Upon his arrival, in the middle of July, in Chicago, he discovered that the Parliament did not open until the first week of September and that it was too late for the registration of delegates; moreover, that no registration would be accepted without any official references. He had none, he was unknown, without any credential from any recognized group and his purse was nearly empty; it would not allow him to wait until the opening of the Congress. Instead of hoarding in inaction, the few dollars left with him, he spent them in visiting Boston. In the Boston train, a rich Massachusetts lady got flattered by his intelligence, invited him to her house and introduced him to the Hellenist, J. H. Wright, a professor at Harvard; he insisted that the young genius should represent at the Parliament of Religions and wrote to the President of the Committee. He offered the penniless pilgrim a railway ticket to Chicago and letters of recommendation to the Committee for finding lodging. In short, all his difficulties were removed. On September 11, 1893, as the last orator of the day, he hardly had pronounced the very simple opening words “Sisters and Brothers of America”; then hundreds rose in their seats and applauded. He was Swami Vivekanand. And what happened after that is history. He proved that desire is seed of success and when planted on the potential ground of uncertainty, having enormous possibilities. meets the chance of higher opportunities.  
Everyone has a will to win but very few have the will to prepare to win.
– Vince Lombardi

Good and bad are complementary

The wave and particle pictures, or the visual and causal representations, are “complementary” to each other. That is, they are mutually exclusive, yet jointly essential for a complete description of quantum events. The wave function of the unobserved object is a mixture of both the wave and particle pictures until the experimenter chooses what to observe in a given experiment.
-Neils Bohr
Good and bad can be treated as the visual and causal representations that are complementary to each other. An unobserved event is a mixture of good and bad untill one chooses what to find out. They are like two poles of magnet which cannot be separated; it doesn’t matter how hard one tries. Good and bad can also be understood in terms of a coin having two sides but only one side is visible at a time; like sides of a coin can be flipped.
The conception of the objective reality has thus evaporated not into the cloud of some obscure new reality concept, but into the transparent clarity that represents no longer the behavior but rather our knowledge of this behaviour. It is essentially subjective because the basic reality of the theory is our knowledge. In the words of Friedrich Nietzsche, there are no facts only interpretations.
There is no such thing as absolute truth or universal reality. Reality is contextual or relative, relevant in one situation and irrelevant in others. Albert Einstein opined reality as merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one. 
The same is true with the terms good and bad that cannot be demarcated. Morphine, a narcotic drug, is considered as curse but for the person suffering from cancer or other severe diseases having unbearable pain morphine as analgesic is a boon. Cutting of hand or leg out of violence in society is bad but same turns out to be good at operation table when doctor do it to save the life of a person. Water, the very essential for living also takes lives in the form of flood.
I heard a story of a man who had a horse. One day his horse went somewhere and didn’t return. The man went sad and thought something bad happened. After three months all of a sudden his horse with some other 30 horses returned. He thought good happened. While riding on his horse the man fell down and got severely injured. At the same time war broke out with neighbouring countries and the king wanted every healthy individual to join army and fight for the country. The man due to severe injuries could not join the army and survived because his country was defeated and all the army men were brutually massacred. Now I give up to you to decide; is falling down from the horse and getting severe injuries really bad for that man?
Let me give you an example of a legend who in a survey conducted by PricewaterhouseCoopers among the leading CEOs for most admired global leader ranked 2nd and is the only one in top 10 list who belonged to corporate world. He is Steve Jobs. He believed in positive outlook of life. In his famous speech delivered at Stanford University, he outlined some incidences of his life which according to others could be considered as worst things that could happen to person such as dropping out of a college in which tuition the entire savings of his parents were spent and firing out of a company which he started at his father’s garage & nurtured from his sweat and blood to such a reputation as of 2 billion$ company with over 4000 staffs launching of Machintosh. But in his statement they are the best things that could ever happen to him because we could have deprived of the beautiful typography of modern computers as they are the result of his drop out from normal classes & joining of calligraphy classes instead and devoid of the first animated feature film ‘Toy story‘, the best animated studio ‘Pixar‘ and the technological renaissance that we witnessed after his return to Apple again as these are the results of developments occured in a company called ‘Next‘ which he formed after his firing from apple.
So I would like you to recall your three worst things that happened to you according to yourself and rethink over them that whether are they really worst or somehow helped you in shaping your future? For better result of absorbing this nature of successful person, I recommend to write down on a piece of paper the new opinion that you find out after reconsidering. You can also analyse your day to day deeds at night before sleeping while lay down on bed and waiting to sleep.
Bad has no existence and good never ceases to be, the reality of both has been acknowledged by the seekers of success.
Bhagwad Geeta (Chapter II verse 16)